Tonight, I’m hosting a get-together with some local moms to talk about Intentional Parenting. I love to geek out about all things child-rearing and discipline, so I’m pretty excited!
If you’re interested, I will post some of my thoughts and notes on the meetup. Just leave me a comment if you want to hear more! :)
In the mean time, here is some non-HLW material. As with anything, just glean what works for you and leave the rest behind! ;)
I’m not a huge fan of “Parenting Self-Help” books, but these books have some very inspiring ideas and some only made me want to toss them at the wall a couple of times. I owe Moxie a big hat tip, as her wonderful parenting advice blog has been my source for many of these recommendations. I don’t own any these; I was fortunate enough to live in a town with a brilliant public library where I could check most of them out.
Cesar’s Way: The Natural, Everyday Guide to Understanding and Correcting Common Dog Problems (No, seriously! Training my two large dogs Cesar’s Way while I was pregnant with my first REALLY taught me SO much about parenting a toddler!)
Nurture Shock: New Thinking About Children (not a parenting book per se, but it is THE book I recommend to parents; its research totally changed my thought processes and practices on many things.
On the Web
One of AskMoxie’s long-time community members came up with a set of three “Triads” of principles that have helped organize my parenting strategy immensely. I owe a great deal to Hedra for thinking so well and so deeply about her approach. Here are quick links to her overview/descriptions of the Triads. I guarantee you, even if you don’t have kids, you will benefit from reading them.
1. Safe, Respectful, and Kind - “for the core physical processes, and the main experience of the early years - pregnancy through Kindergarten or so. It covers health, self/integrity, empathy.”
2. Effective, Prudent, and True - “for the understanding of self and action, choice, decision-making, and the intersection between self and other - any other. Not yet to relationship, though the edges of all overlap. Starting around first grade, this matches the social and emotional development - up through middle school, I’d say. This covers will, choice, and identity.”
3. Acceptant, Loving, and Faithful - “for interrelating over the longer term, for marriage, for children, for the people with whom we choose to have relationships.”
(Hedra also has a great Book List, herself.